Dear Twerp's Wife..

Hello. I am writing you publicly to tell you how sorry I am for your husband's indiscretions. He not only LIED to you, but he lied to me as well, and in view of recent occurrences, I have strong reason to believe there were others.

It's so thoughtful of you to forgive your husband for his behaviour. I must hand it to you, I am not nearly that BIG a person. In fact, I described to him on several occasions how he would be picking up all his belongings from off the front lawn while I stood in the doorway with a cup of coffee in hand. Hell I might have even been snapping photos for facebook!

Of course you have taken it upon yourself to forgive him. You have children at home who need a father, although his frequent absences must have been questioned by 3 teenage boys as to their father's whereabouts. But you are also 'forgiving' him because of your fears of being forced to be self-sufficient and on your own. I am not able to relate to this on a personal level, of course, because I know no other way. I find I fear the opposite.

He told me of your cute job 'doing hair', stating that you didn't make much money at it and it only threw him into a higher tax bracket. So sad for your family. He did say, though what a great job you did ironing his clothes.

I really liked the comment you made to him when there was discussion of there possibly being 'another woman' (there was and that other woman was ME) and how you wanted to know right now while you were 'still young enough to find another man'. I don't know if anyone has clued you into this or not, but nowadays we women can actually support ourselves and our families on our own.. And we can even VOTE!!

You would have no worries, actually.. He may not want you to know this, but you could be getting quite a tidy sum of money from him right up front and a nice monthly check. I know of all the properties, etc.. The court would have no problem finding him at fault. Good divorce attorneys are plentiful, especially there in Florida. He discussed finances with me on several occasions and even had the guts to inquire about my wages. Yes he was a 'ballsy' one.

There were times I felt so badly for you, one in particular was while I was trying to have dinner with my daughter and he was, as usual, texting me fervently, describing how you were practically 'in his lap' and 'looking over his shoulder', 'sitting at his feet', kinda made you sound like a lapdog. Then he said 'I HATE when she does that!' My heart sank. It really bothered me.

He wasn't with me because I reminded him of you in ANY way, because obviously we are nothing alike.. We are not even the same race... I'm not even a 'younger' woman, in fact a few years older than you. I am the independent type, spiritual but not religious, a lady with class and flash who is just as happy in her jogging pants and t-shirt as I am in a little black dress with a string of pearls and heels. I'm tall and have legs a mile long and you... don't.

In the end, when the inevitable happened, it hurt. Maybe because for once I thought it really was MY turn to have a little happiness, thinking about those 2 nice incomes together and what good times they would buy.. Knowing of course, half of his income would go to you and the kids. I was thinking selfishly for once, that someone ADORED me as much as he claimed to, and he did a really nice job convincing me, because I truly believed it. He was really good at the 'deception' part that's for sure. How smoothly he lied about his whereabouts, the night he was supposed to take 'night watch' he was with me. He came home for a little while, but the majority of the weekend we were together until Sunday night, he decided to stay at home with you. I accepted that and slept alone. I actually PREFER sleeping alone.

He even bought a Trac-fone that he had programmed with a Mississippi area code which I thought was wayy over the top on the 'deception' chart.. because he was supposed to be in Gulp Port when he was with me. "This way", he explained, "I will be calling from this phone and it will show the call coming from Gulf Port." I was stunned. Who would ever THINK of something like that? I knew then I would never be able to trust him out of my sight. Not even in the same room, because many times while he was texting me and chatting with me on the messenger, he was in the same room with you and the kids. Only a matter of time until he's doing it with someone else.

I like to say I have no regrets and I haven't until now. I cried so many times for you and those boys, how I hated to be part of the hurt, but he convinced me his marriage was over before I came into the picture. And again, I believed him.

Well, there won't ever be a chance for US again, but there will be others. I can't respect a man who suddenly changes his mind after discussing it for a month. His mind was made up, he told me repeatedly. He wanted ME. I think he really did until he found out just HOW unlike you I really am.

Whether or not there is still 'love' in your marriage, or if there ever was, I certainly can't say. I know he left another woman for you. He was living with her in fact and happened upon the paperwork he was filling out to bring you to the States. I can only imagine the hurt she must have felt.. In fact it was probably very much like what I felt... Betrayal, shock, disgust, rage.

The lazy and weak-willed will always choose the easiest path. That's HIM.

He's all yours, you won. I just hope your sons have better values and don't take after their father. The world already has enough cheating husbands in it.

Sincerely,

The former 'other woman'